"Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide To Overcome Negativity And Better Manage Your Feelings" || Quotes And Bits Of Wizdom

Happy new year!

I meant to upload this post before 2024 was over, but life happened and I didn't have time, so I guess it will be my first post of 2025. 

I listened to this audiobook a while ago and it was quite interesting.  I didn't love it, as a matter of fact I only rated it 2/5*, but I did find a few interesting bits about it and a few quotes that put me in thought. So, I thought of sharing those with you and discussing my thoughts on them.

"Events that happen to you bear no meaning in themselves, you give them meaning only through your interpretation of those events."

When I read this phrase my whole view point shifted. I had never thought of it that way. If you think about it, it's right; events are just events, they don't carry inherent meaning. They mean what we make them mean, they take the meaning and importance we decide to give them. 

"Attachment creates beliefs and these beliefs lead you to experience certain emotions."

I guess I had never thought of what it is that creates beliefs. Reading this quote, I suppose that attachment is indeed one of the things that creates and solidifies beliefs in us. Attachment to people, objects, habits, even attachment to inner thoughts, hopes and dreams. It is how we create not only beliefs, but expectations as well. 

Consequently, it's those solidified, cemented beliefs and expectations that we keep, safeguard, treasure, cling on, and often refuse to change that not only create but also affect and change our emotions. It is our inner thoughts and most deeply held beliefs that lead us to experience different emotions. 

So, I guess, if you can realize this, and be conscious about it, you will probably be able to handle your emotions and the situations linked to them. You'll be able to be in control of certain situations, instead of letting them control you and your mental and emotional stability.

"Ego is the identity you have created for yourself. Ego is a need for identity. Ego is only concerned about its own survival."

And

"Ego is neither good nor bad, it's just a result of a lack of self awareness. It fades away as you become aware of it, as ego and awareness cannot coexist."

And

"The ego leads through comparison. It likes to compete with other egos. The ego is never satisfied it always wants more."

These three quotes about ego put me in a lot of thought. I combined them in this post, and put them side by side, because to me, they complete each other and they make more sense when studied together. 

I really liked how the author touched the subject of ego and how he phrased everything. As I was reading this part of the book, something clicked in my mind and I did not expect it. I feel I have nothing to add to these quotes, nothing further to analyze, I just wanted to put them in this post as they are.

"Loneliness is not cured by human company, it's cured by contact with reality by understanding we don't need people. Once you realise you don't need anyone you can actually start enjoying people's company. You can see them as what they are rather than trying to get something from them."

I love this bit, because it's something that I have always thought about. I have often been surrounded by people who felt lonely, and in their loneliness, they would despair and result to wrong solutions, as hanging with the wrong people or making bad decisions in general. I have also felt lonely myself a few times, and I realized first hand that it was not a feeling easily cured or changed. 

Feeling lonely can make you think that you need others to fight this loneliness when this couldn't be further from the truth. This is how we end up surrounding ourselves with people that mean nothing to us, that we don't love or care about, only in order to try and fight our loneliness. The only way to fight loneliness is to sit and work with yourself. Working with your self-esteem and self-awareness can lead you to really understand who you are deep inside, figure out your worth and your uniqueness. It can help you realize if you need others in your life or not, how you need them to be a part of your life, and why you may have that need. 

I've always thought that the most important relationship we each have in life is the one with ourselves. So, once you've mended your relationship with yourself and worked with yourself enough, it should be as natural and easy to be in your own presence, as with anyone else's. And being well with yourself can feel liberating and healing and it's ultimately the only thing that might help you fight loneliness.

"Men imagine that thought can be kept secret but it cannot. It rapidly crystallizes into habit and habit solidifies into circumstance. Thoughts generate emotions and emotions dictate your actions."

I found this one interesting as well. Do thoughts really crystallize into habit and solidify into circumstance? I believe they do. I also believe that our thoughts and emotions can dictate our actions. In that way, some times even our misconceptions and wrong ideas may dictate our actions, therefore leading us to wrong paths.